What I did discover was a report following a review by the Crown Prosecution Service that such allegations are extremely rare:
Appearing today in my newsfeed was a story about a businesswoman who brutally murdered her 8 year old son. Bizarrely, her defence argued that the reason she killed was due to some accusations she made against two ex-partners. There was no evidence to substantiate such claims. In other words she was making false allegations against two men
Some women’s organisations will grudgingly acknowledge that men can claim to experience Domestic Violence, but will then claim that a male victim is really a perpetrator. There is no evidence to support this claim, rather it is another smokescreen to hide the real truth.
Women, as well as men, can be violent in relationships. This is nothing new. Back in 1971, Erin Pizzey opened the first Refuge (Shelter) and discovered that of the first 100 women to enter, 60% were as violent or even more violent than the men they were claiming to flee from.
Pizzey has been the subject of death threats and boycotts because of her research into the claim that most domestic violence is reciprocal, and that women are equally as capable of violence as men. Pizzey has said that the threats were from militant feminists.
Such claims have been consistent with academic studies taken all throughout the last 40 years including PASK 2012
Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project (PASK) 2012 reveals the following:
The majority of Domestic Violence incidents is mutual – that is where both parties fight each other.
Population Surveys : 57.9%
Community Samples 59.6%
School & College samples 51.9%
Female oriented clinical samples 72.3%
Between 51.9% - 59.6% are mutual Domestic Violence situations. The big surprise is the figure of 72.3% which comes from clinical samples from Lesbian relationships.
In other words, the highest incidents of domestic violence have been found in lesbian relationships!!1
So what about scenarios where there is no reciprocal violence? PASK also asks that question.
The figures for Male assaults against female (non-mutual IPV) are:
Population Surveys : 13.8%
Community Samples 17.5%
School & College samples 16.2%
Perhaps surprisingly the figures for Female assaults against male (non-mutual IPV) are:
Population Surveys : 28.3%
Community Samples 22.9%
School & College samples 31.9%
Notice how woman are twice as likely to attack a male partner, than a male assault a woman without any reciprocal action.
And yet, society is still by large disbelieving about women aggressors.
I feel that many women remain in denial about their violent behaviour towards partners or ex-partners. My ex certainly is even now. Our children have challenged her about the assaults on me that THEY witnessed. They saw her hit me, pour hot drinks over me and smash dinner plates (with food still on them) over my head. And yet, she wasn’t violent! She will admit to being a little clumsy and dropping things, but remains in denial about more severe deliberate violent acts. I have also spoken with women who have eventually admitted hitting their partner.
For men when they hit a partner, there is no hiding place when reported or witnessed. Some women though, remain in denial. They believe that they can strike their partner because the partner is male therefore it doesn’t really hurt or their emotional/hormonal condition allows them to behave in such a way etc. They think that because society doesn’t want to recognise that women can act in such fashion that they can deny they have anger issues or violent tendencies. After all, no man will want to claim that their female partner is abusive to them, will they. And even if the male is brave enough to speak out, who will believe him? They can deny it and remain in denial about their own problems.