A report appeared in my local newspaper that led to an online discussion about the nature of Domestic Violence where a 32 year old woman admitted she assaulted her partner by throwing a garden spiked candle-holder at him. The third throw hit him causing a two inch cut. It was good to see that a man felt he could press charges, although it was actually the man’s mother who reported the crime. Good on her I say.
Anyhow, what annoyed me was the punishment dished out to the woman. She got a community order which included 14 sessions at the local women's centre. What are they going to teach her there ??? That she was really the victim as men are to blame for everything? Will they help her improve her aim so that next time it only takes her one attempt to hit her target???? Absolutely unbelievable.
Expressing this view led to some comments that seemed to want to justify the woman’s actions. He must have deserved it, he had it coming, he must have provoked her, it must have been self-defence etc. When excessive force is used however, it can’t be self-defence, more a case of mutual violence.
And yet, were the gender roles reversed, no-one would try and justify such action. It would be wrong because he was a nasty man attacking an innocent woman. He certainly would not have got a community order punishment which included 14 sessions at a local men’s centre. Dare I say it, his punishment most likely would have been at Her Majesty’s Pleasure.
I’ve encountered such attitudes before, and I have to say that strangely enough, its women who will try to justify the actions of another violent woman. It’s as if they can’t accept that women can be as violent as men, and so there has to be some rationale behind the assault.
There is NEVER any justification for any form of domestic violence. There is no excuse for domestic abuse.
Please don’t try to justify any one else’s violence. They may be ill, they may need help etc, but that is NO EXCUSE EVER. Think about it next time, any assault is verbally indefensible.